It was in the news recently that one woman has been bullied for years by other residents in her retirement community.
And they weren’t just mean girls (or more correctly, women). Men participated in the ostracizing at the Arizona community.
Who knew that retirement could bring back flashes (or nightmares) from high school? Some think aging is a regression to child-like behaviors and maybe this is one of them.
Doris Lor moved into a retirement community in 2003 and has been bullied by a group of other residents ever since by her account. Because of it she isn’t able to use the community center and join in on activities including card games.
Interestingly she said she has spoken with lawyers and written dozens of letters without any change. It’s hard to understand if her perception is accurate but one AARP editor thinks it is plausible in any group environment.
I can’t tell if Ms. Lor is being harassed or not from the details in the story. However, it did make me think about how this could really ruin the experience of living in an active adult community.
You see, I saw a news story about living in the Villages a few years back and thought it looked like a wonderful way to spend my golden years. Now, I’m not so sure.
If you think about it, being around a bunch of people going through major life changes at the same time and it does sound a lot like high school. Add disease such as Alzheimer’s or dementia and we have multiple reasons that may lead to some of those negative behaviors.
My mind is still open to this lifestyle but with a more cautious outlook. What do you think about these types of communities?